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{November 3, 2013}   Remembering High School Hell

While sitting at the coffee shop late last night, doing my crossword puzzle, I kept getting distracted by giggles coming from the corner of the shop. The high-pitch giggling was coming from three teenage girls who seemed to be watching videos on one of those outrageously expensive iPhones. I couldn’t help but notice how much it looked like myself sitting there with a few friends in my High School Hell days. The three girls were all considered obese (much like myself and the friends I kept), they hid in a corner of the room (just like me and my friends did) and every time a good looking boy walked in to get a coffee they went all googly-eyed and giggly (just like we used to).

I really got to thinking about my teen years on my drive home. Not so much reminiscing, as I wouldn’t say my high school days were enjoyable, but more like remembering the hell I went through and dealt with on a daily basis. Much of the hell in my own mind. My thoughts came to rest on how I so badly wanted a boyfriend when I was with my friends, but how I was so head-over-heels in love with, 1. My Middle School Principal, 2. My Social Studies teacher, 3. My Algebra teacher and 4. My Algebra II teacher, who were all women. Of course I kept my fantasies to myself. I guess I’ve always known I’m a lesbian but I denied it for many years because it’s just not acceptable around here. I think I wanted a boyfriend so bad for a few reasons: 1. Maybe people would overlook how fat I was because I must be worth something- I have a boyfriend, 2. If I had a boyfriend then I had to love him, so I wouldn’t be so obsessed with my female teachers. Maybe I’d finally be normal? 3. Maybe I wouldn’t be such a social outcast anymore, because like the ‘popular’ girls, I’d also have a boyfriend- therefore I’d finally have something in common with the popular crowd other than my excellent grades.

Needless to say, boyfriend or no boyfriend, I never got “into guys”, though God knows I tried and I’m glad I didn’t. Women are pretty amazing. Looking back to those days makes me realize that I had to go through high school hell to find myself. I’m really glad I went through it back then because I couldn’t even imagine what it would be like to be going through it in my mid-twenties.



{September 3, 2013}   What Women Have Gone Through

A few things I’ve wondered about and finally found the energy and attention span to research:

 

The first Push-Up Bra. Thank God for Victoria's Secret!

The first Push-Up Bra. Thank God for Victoria’s Secret!

 

The first modern bra was invented in 1889 by Herminie Cadolle in France. Cup sizes were introduced in 1933 by the S.H. Camp and Company when they correlated the size and pendulousness of women’s breast to letters of the alphabet, A through D.

 

Imagine having to wear this for one week every month?!

Imagine having to wear this for one week every month?!

That time of month? Run to the store on the corner and grab a box of tampons, panty liners or pads. Before the late 1920’s this wouldn’t have been possible because Tampons hadn’t yet been patented for mass production. In fact the Ancient Egyptians had made Tampons out of softened Papyrus. In Greece tampons were rigged out of lint wrapped around small pieces of wood. In Rome they used wool to make both pads and tampons. Less wealthy women used paper, animal skins, moss and grass. It wasn’t until 1896 that the first commercial sanitary napkins were available from Lister’s Towels. The first commercial Tampon was commercialized in 1931 by a Doctor Earl Haas. And finally, in 1969 StayFree introduced Minipads, the first sanitary napkin with adhesive so it would stick to panties without having to use belts, clips and safety pins. What a relief!

 

 

BCFrom 1930-1960 Lysol Disinfectant was used by many women as a contraceptive (at the same time it was being advertised as a bathroom and kitchen cleaner!), though it didn’t actually prevent pregnancy. The first birth control pill was approved by the FDA in 1960. Unfortunately, though it was effective for preventing pregnancy, many women suffered the severe side effects such as heart attacks and blood clots… because the dosage was actually ten times higher than it needed to be. It wasn’t until 1988 that a new, safer pill was approved by the FDA.

 



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